I was in a meeting at work and someone asked if me if I was married…I answered “yes”. Which led to the obligatory “what does your husband do?”. To which I answer “I’m gay, I don’t have a husband, I have a wife.” Which leads to an HR complaint about my “inappropriate comments about my personal life.”
(keep in mind, that I am a member of the HR department)
Well that’s bull shit. Just reading that pisses me off, I can’t even imagine how angry it made you.
You know that feeling when your palms get sweaty and you’re so angry you can’t think? Well, imagine that, and then picture yourself in a conservative company where YOU are your only ally…and then you have to have a day of conversations about how your “lifestyle” impacts the people around you. Ughhhhhhh. 2009? Right?
This just makes me want to cry…My wife and I are one of the 18K couples still married in California, even though Prop. 8 was upheld. I fearlessly refer to her as my “wife” as often as I can, which clearly unnerves people at times. But, I’m extremely lucky to work at a social justice agency in the Bay Area where I’m embraced as a gay, married woman. Visibility takes courage and sometimes puts you at risk of being hated on, but keep going!! Your allies are out here and things ARE changing!
